On Resilience and Healing Shadows

An Interview with A. Taylor

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A. Taylor is an inspiring individual whose life story speaks volumes about the power of perseverance. From a young age, Taylor faced immense challenges, including a turbulent childhood marked by time in institutional care. Despite these early hardships, he discovered an unwavering inner strength that propelled him forward, ultimately deciding to capture his journey in a memoir. Supported by Future Pathways and with guidance from The Book Whisperers, Taylor embarked on the emotional journey of writing his story. His memoir not only reflects his personal path to healing but also aims to offer hope and light to others facing similar struggles.

In this interview, Taylor shares insights into his writing process and reflects on what it took to bring his story to life.

  • Tell us about the process of writing your book. How do you feel now that it’s finished?

I had never really written anything before, although I always had the idea to write a book but never really thought it was possible. After discussing it with Future Pathways, they agreed to fund the project. I was very apprehensive about putting pen to paper, but once I started, I found that the words flowed well. I wasn't that confident about my writing skills. I have no doubt that Mary had a massive influence on my confidence; with her guidance and support, I achieved something I never thought was possible. She gave me lots of reassurance that I was capable and definitely had the ability. It was very important to me that my memoir was my words, about my story and my journey. I found the whole process very cathartic, seeing my words on paper.

  • What do you hope your book will achieve?
  • Who do you envision the book helping or reaching?

I hope my book will achieve what I intended: to give hope to anyone who has had mental health struggles or childhood trauma. I want them to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel, though everyone's light is different. Obviously, it’s a genre that appeals to some, but I hope it reaches people who are interested in memoirs of hope and resilience.

  • Resilience is a recurring theme throughout your story. How do you personally define resilience, and how has it shaped your life?

For me, resilience has to come from within. It means the ability to come back from adverse chapters in my life, to dig deep, and to find the will to keep fighting the demons that haunted me for many years.

  • Did writing the book help you emotionally in dealing with the past (ie putting it into perspective and seeing it from a distance)?
  • What advice would you offer to others who are facing abuse and mental health struggles similar to yours?

I wasn't under any illusion that taking on this task would be easy; it was an emotional roller coaster and, at times, very triggering. It was certainly a journey, to say the least. Everyone's journey will be different. To anyone who has faced abuse or mental health challenges, I would say: firstly, regarding abuse, remember it is not your fault. Speak to someone, confide in a friend or someone you trust—there is help out there. Mental health is a continuum; do not be hard on yourself, seek professional advice, and try to avoid the stigmatization that still surrounds mental health. Historical abuse, in particular, can rear its ugly head at any time because the brain is so complex; it has the ability to hide things away and then reveal them when we least expect it. From my experience, I would say: talk, talk, and keep talking to a trusted friend, colleague, or family member. It won't be easy, but in the long run, it will help you address the guilt and shame you may feel.

  • What was the most challenging part of writing your book? Conversely, what part of the process did you find easiest, or perhaps most enjoyable?

The most challenging part of writing the book was when something I was writing triggered me emotionally, often when I least expected it. The easiest part for me was when I felt I had written a good chapter, and the words flowed. I found that part enjoyable and was proud of what I had written.

  • What advice would you give to others who are thinking about writing their own stories?

The advice I would give to others who want to write their own stories is, firstly, to be yourself. Understand that if your story includes trauma, it will likely be very triggering. Be honest with yourself about whether you are in a good enough place to go on that journey. Believe in yourself, remembering that everyone in life has a story to tell, and each story is unique in its own way.

  • How was it working with The Book Whisperers to share your story?

As for The Book Whisperers, I cannot thank Mary Turner Thomson enough. Her patience, understanding, empathy, and compassion were truly amazing. Her professionalism was second to none. I never felt any pressure, and her enthusiasm and guidance were immeasurable, beyond words. She always kept me updated about the process every step of the way, and I can't thank her enough.

I've mentioned that it was a journey. The process can get bumpy toward the end when it comes to publishing because all you really want to see is your book in print. But once you do, it's an exhilarating experience. As of today, in the first nine weeks, my book has sold 110 hardbacks, 72 paperbacks, and 36 eBooks. It has received 26 five-star ratings and 19 great written reviews, of which I am immensely proud. But I couldn't have done it without Mary from The Book Whisperers and Katie, who helped with marketing. This journey has given me a new lease on life, time to heal and reflect, and ultimately made me a better version of myself. A massive thanks to all involved in The Book Whisperers who helped me on that journey.

A. Taylor’s journey of resilience and healing shines through each chapter of his memoir, offering readers a powerful reminder that, no matter the challenges, hope and strength can prevail. For those interested in experiencing his story firsthand, Healing Shadows is available on Amazon in hardcover, paperback, and eBook formats.